Blog 12 What is kindness and how does it affect our state of being and influence the world around us ?

” Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. Affection, gentleness, warmth, concern, and care are words that are associated with kindness. While kindness has a connotation of meaning someone is naive or weak, that is not the case. Being kind often requires courage and strength. Kindness is an interpersonal skill.”  Karyn Hall PH.D.  ”  Pieces of the Mind”  2017.

How do I explain kindness to my readers ?  Well I will give you a visual  … I want you first to clear your mind take a few cleansing breaths first in through your nose and out through your breath .  as you do this visualize the light from Source coming through your crown chakra ( top of your head) and radiating down the middle of your body toward mother earth . This energy moves up and down and vitalizes you. A s you breathe and let go of all the thoughts and worries of the day and relax your body from your feet up to your head .  Once you complete your  fourth breath and feel totally relaxed open your eyes and continue to read this but as you do imagine you are looking at a movie and you are in this movie…now continue reading

Imagine that one day on your way to the local coffee shop you see a homeless man/woman sitting close to the front of the store he/she has a small bowl and you see a couple of pennies in the bowl.  You approach this person and ask him/her if she /he would like to get something to eat and drink.  They say yes and the two of you enter the coffee shop  . You ask him/her what they would like to order and they say a cup of black coffee and a sandwich.  You ask them what kind of sandwich.. you see how emaciated and unkempt they appear to be and you order something substantial to eat. As you do this the person behind you is impressed  by what you’ve done ;  so  they ask this homeless person  if he’d she’d  like a dessert.  The homeless person says yes and they buy him a chocolate chip cookie.  Then in turn the waiter ‘s super is present and says as you’re about to pay for this meal .  That’s ok its on us.

The man/woman who paid for the homeless person’s cookie now leaves the store and is late for his bus to the airport.  He/she is upset and doesn’t know what to do .  A man who left walking behind from the coffee shop sees and asks him/her what’s up and he says to him I’m a limo driver and on break right now .  I can call this in and give you a ride to the airport. 

The limo driver drops him/her at the airport and helps them with their baggage .  The man/woman safely reach their gate .  The limo driver goes back to the limo and he/she is doing so someone catches his eye he sees a child crying who is lost and can’t find his/her mother.  the limo driver takes the child to the airport security and they announce over the speaker the child’s name and his/her mother comes rushing to the security officer and the mother is reunited with her child.  She offers the man a reward of $100 which he/she declines on taking but she insists he/she takes it.

The limo driver drives off to pick up another passenger and his/her day continues on  and  he/she feels joyful.

In the meantime the homeless man / woman walks out of the coffee shop to see about two doors down a charity event being offered by a hair salon.  Free haircut and style and shave for the first 10 customers.  The homeless man /woman goes into the salon  and the hairdresser not only cuts and styles their hair but also dyes it .   The Man/woman look totally transformed and the hairdresser offers this man/woman a set of brand new clothes that she was going to bring to a thrift shop. The clothes fit him/her perfectly and he/she exit the salon looking totally different.  Across from the hair salon there’s an unemployment office and they decide to try their luck at getting a  job.

They get an offer for a new job and the unemployment employee refers them to social worker who is able to find them housing under a special program.

This scenario could go on and on because everyone who was in the coffee shop that day was affected by this act of kindness and in turn they extended it to those whom they encountered that day.

It would be awesome if everyday we saw this happening and were part of this acting with kindness and respect for all the people and creature of the  earth that we encounter.

May your days be filled with love, abundance, joy , laughter and hope and kindness !!!!

Blog 11 What is Joy and How Do I Stay Joyful ?

Joy is a permanent state where one is full of joy.  It is not dependent on a set of circumstances no matter what the situation you are joyful.   It may be your faith that motivates you to feel joyful knowing that the One is always with you and has your back.

So now how do I maintain that state of joy ?  

Work on  a project that brings you joy.  Perhaps you’ve been meaning to complete writing that book do it . 

I’ve found spending time with children brings me joy.  Therefore I may go visit my friends and share some time with their children or may volunteer to babysit them. Or I may volunteer to assist in a preschool setting helping the children with a project and other tasks.  Kids are always basically joyful and their joy is infection.  They respond to love and acceptance of who they are .

If you don’t have a pet perhaps volunteer at a no kill animal shelter and   spend some time with the animals walking them feeding them and petting them.  Animals are full of unconditional love and will reciprocate love to you.

Do something fun  go to a park and run or power walk that may bring you joy.  Or visit an arboratum or visit a zoo or historical site.

Self care to relieve stress and increase your joy  .  Get a massage or exercise attend that spin class you’ve been meaning to attend and keep on putting off.  Get a facial and head massage.  All of these things  assist us  in reducing stress and puts us into a calm relaxed state of mind and body.

Eat healthy and stay hydrated .  The healthier and more invigorated you feel the more relaxed and clearer  is our state of mind and body.  This assists in our maintaining and feeling joy all the time.

Always smile and maintain that smile .  People are attracted to someone who smiles and your interactions will be joyful.  Also smiling affects our own state of mind .  Our body organs react to it it sends positive signals to our body and its organs and to our brain.  

Happiness is fleeting and Joy is ever present .  These are just my thoughts and suggestions on how to be in joy and maintain that state of joy.

 

Blog 10 5 Ways to Become an Optimist

In today’s world it’s difficult to stay positive 100 % of the time.  Let’s face it life happens for example you call up a friend and in the conversation they bring up the fact that one of your colleagues died.  You’re upset that no one informed you and that.

Secondly keep track of what you say to others …keep a journal and you may find that you often are expressing or communicating to others in a rather negative manner.  Once you understand your pattern check yourself before you talk or interact with others and remain positive and present in the moment.  Looking to the past or the future does not serve us just be present and mindful of your interactions with others and you will see your interactions shift into a positive one and you may grow your social network.  People enjoy being around a positive person and avoid the negative people the people who create drama all around them.

Thirdly  listen to positive speeches such as Dr Proctor , Lisa Nichols,  Tony Robbins, and Gudni Gudnason.  You will find if you listen everyday to positive messages and affirmations you will start living a more positive and your possibilities and situations to create a life you wish to have will come to fruition.

Fourthly  treat everyone around you with compassion not with sympathy .  You do not serve them or their situation with phrases like  ” everything will be all right you’ll see”  ” time heals all wounds”  If you don’t know what to say be honest just say so but let them know you’re there for them .  You hear them you acknowledge them.

Fifthly forgive yourself and others.  It may take time but at least acknowledge your past mistakes and then let them go.  You may need to go for some counseling whereby you can discuss things in  a private setting where there is some anonymity and sense of safety.  

Self care is essential in this process.  When we take the time to care for ourselves for instance,  go to a spa, get a facial or massage we are not only feeling better but our body responds and sends out neural messages and increases positive hormones and chemicals that when released affect our health and body organs and our mind.

Bearing this in mind and keeping a journal on your thoughts for the day and what triggered you to answer someone or speak to then in a negative manner will eventually change when you become conscious and make a conscious choice to change.

 So as from the teaching from the lineage of King Salomon:  ” It is by will alone that I set my mind in motion ” and ”  As it is above so it is Below”  .  When we want to make a change we need to definetely want to do so and then we take this idea and plan how to do so and then set things in motion and take action.  Without taking action we cannot change anything.  

So in summary :  set up and make a plan a structured one ..get up at the same time every morning and then begin with meditation and prayers and then begin your day.

You will have positive affirmations written and placed where you can see them.  Repetitive visual stimulation and then verbally stating your affirmation assists you to eventually internalize these positive affirmations and then they become a part of you.  

Then begin your set plan of action and begin to set into motion. Each day you are building a foundation and creating the changes that eventually lead you to your desired goal.

Wishing everyone success on their journey in life.

These are suggestions you can incorporate them or not .  It’s your decision or you may be spurred to embellish it and create a plan that works for you.  Remember ” It is by will alone that I set my mind in motion”.

Blog 8 What is the Modern Mystery School

Blog 7 Life Activation and the Empower Thyself Initiation

Blog Day 6 Learning to Forgive Myself and Those Around Me

In my earlier years I made the fatal mistake of being conned by a man to whom I had been introduced to by a coworker .  I trusted this coworker as she was an independent and a successful business woman who wound up working for our biomed dept .  

It turned out that her husband was  meeting up with unsavory people and unfortunately I was in one of those desperate times of thinking that my biological was ticking and needed to meet the man of my dreams and have the house with the white picket fence immediately. 

However this was far from the case and without getting into further details he wound up in jail and had liquidated all my funds and I was left literally alone with only a dime in my pocket .

Well because of all the pressure and pain and sorrow this man caused in my life it affected my family.  My family decided that I was too stupid and blamed me for their problems as this man ( he was a con man) also affected my father’s financial and living situation.  He was left to remortgage a home he had paid for in full because Mr Con Man had my dad sign over his home as collateral in case something happened to the conman’s property.

Well once Mr  Con Man hit jail and I realized what a liar and devious person he was  I thought well I had a diamond ring he gave perhaps since the appraisal stated it was worth $20,000 that perhaps I could sell it to a jewelry store owner who was known to buy jewelry from his customers?

Alas the day for meeting with the jeweler arrived.   He compassionately heard my story and applied  his  diamond loupe to his left eye .   He quickly removed the diamond loupe and shook his head and stated he never encountered this before.  I’m so sorry he said but the diamond ring is pure glass and is not even a  zirconia.  Well what a creep ?  He probably at some point switched the ring and had the real diamond in his possession.

Well of course following this event ;  everyone in the family shunned me .

My father tried allowing me to live with him but it was difficult as I owed him money and well had to start over from ground zero.

Following this experience and the fact I had to go back to work quickly as I was broke and had to declare bankruptcy .  It turned out that I did not until later on in life,  fully understand the ramifications of my experiences living with this conman and learning he had betrayed me .   That the toll of  losing family and acquaintances in the process was more painful to bear than I had imagined.

During the years following this experience I made poor choices in relationships never recognizing that I was suffering from PTSD.

How did I regain my sanity and learn to forgive those that held me so accountable for a mistake I made ?   Through therapy  I learned that it  was due to the fact that I did not have a strong male figure in my early developmental years of my life and this was compounded by the dysfunctional family dynamics and the dysfunctional school system I had to deal with.

My mother had struggled  to keep us alive and healthy;  while my father stayed in Europe studying medicine.  I lived with an aunt who despised me and a grandmother who was almost totally deaf and was a student studying  in a  very prejudiced school system. I struggled in school and it was in these unhealthy environments that  I could not thrive or learn.

My siblings have little recollection about my struggles or the dysfunctionality of my aunt’s relationship towards me and how her ( my mother’s sisters)  allowed my aunt to poison them and make them silent partners rather than champions towards the welfare of an innocent child.   My two siblings  were considered smarter and actually excelled in school and were accepted into the best of colleges.

I on the other hand wound up on the waitlist and was finally accepted into a local university and struggled in the overwhelming large college campus environment.

It was towards the end of my college days and working first as a child psychology tester for the state of NJ and then working in clerical environment,  that I found my passion which was medicine.

I became an RN in the state of NJ and moved up the career ladder till I found my passion in surgical trauma intensive care.  It was here I found people of like minded goals and comraderie and saw many miracles.

I did not learn from my earlier mistakes as the PTSD was not addressed .  It was through trial and error and seeking counseling that I discovered I was not a mistake .  I had a purpose in life and that I did not cause hardship on my family.  It was the conman who did and he according to the FBI was the best in the state of NJ.

Through this struggle with guilt and being constantly ignored and not invited to family functions for over 15 years and still to this day ;  that I realized the missing piece in the equation was my spirituality that somehow my relationship with God could either turn these events into a positive or a negative. 

That is how I found the Modern Mystery School and discovered what my purpose in life was.   It was to help others heal from traumas and also offer them a path of progression where in turn they could help others heal psychologically, spiritually and physically.  

Through these struggles I learned not to hold onto guilt and shame but release it to the universe and forgive myself then once I did that I could in turn forgive those in the family who shunned me.  They may never invite me to any gatherings or events and may selectively inform me only of relative’s deaths but not their hospitalizations prior to their demise;  but I in turn I need to let them be.  

There is a saying that time heals all wounds but that is not true.  It is only in our facing that which wounded us and understanding why we actively chose at that point in time to be wounded , that in turn we can forgive ourselves.  Sometimes the wounds seem beyond our understanding and the inflicted pain and suffering seem worthless.   But I have learned to give it meaning by offering up so that others can learn from my mistakes and also where I in turn can help them heal from their wounds.

My wish for everyone is to know you are never alone and that there is always someone struggling with pain or sorrow and that from our personal experiences we in turn can help each other grow and heal emotionally, spiritually and mentally.  We can guide them to be the best that  they can be.  Life is precious and we need to live every day as if it was our last.

Phyllis Francene Livera BA psychology RN BSN guide healer and teacher in the sacred lineage of King Salomon as taught and handed down by founder Gudni www.ModernMysteryInternational.com

CEO and founder of the Center for Healing and Empowerment 

www.centerforhealingandempowerment.com

732-882-9676

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Blog 5 The Benefits of Meditation

Given all the buzz, it’s tempting to see meditation as trendy, but really it’s a thousand-year-old practice of calming the mind and halting day-to-day stressors. And doing so benefits every area of life, says Josh Korda, dharma teacher at Dharma Punx NYC.

See, when you meditate, you put your guard down, let energy in, and get yourself out of a stressful self-defense mode, says Sonia Choquette, a meditation teacher with more than 35 years of experience. “It’s pressing a pause button and giving yourself room to breathe,” she says. “And when you have room to breathe, you access your greater potential and your greater state of being.” It can also even out your mood and energy levels, says Gabrielle Bernstein, a certified meditation teacher and New York Times best-selling author. “We experience more even-keeled energy,” she says. “And that expands to how we show up in the world.”

With those kinds of benefits, why isn’t everyone (and their mother) meditating? Well, skeptics might be turned off by the negative—and false—stereotype that meditation is hippie-dippy and too good to be true. But there’s plenty of solid evidence to satisfy all the naysayers out there. And even better, science suggests you may experience the brain benefits related to the practice even when you’re not actively meditating . Plus, it may even help you save money on your healthcare .

Need more convincing? Here’s 19 awesome, science-backed benefits of meditation!  With more and more people touting its life-changing benefits (we’re looking at you, Anderson Cooper!), it’s safe to say that meditation has gone mainstream. But unlike questionable cleanses, this practice can do your body, mind, and entire existence a whole lot of good.

Given all the buzz, it’s tempting to see meditation as trendy, but really it’s a thousand-year-old practice of calming the mind and halting day-to-day stressors. And doing so benefits every area of life, says Josh Korda, dharma teacher at Dharma Punx NYC.

See, when you meditate, you put your guard down, let energy in, and get yourself out of a stressful self-defense mode, says Sonia Choquette, a meditation teacher with more than 35 years of experience. “It’s pressing a pause button and giving yourself room to breathe,” she says. “And when you have room to breathe, you access your greater potential and your greater state of being.” It can also even out your mood and energy levels, says Gabrielle Bernstein, a certified meditation teacher and New York Times best-selling author. “We experience more even-keeled energy,” she says. “And that expands to how we show up in the world.”

With those kinds of benefits, why isn’t everyone (and their mother) meditating? Well, skeptics might be turned off by the negative—and false—stereotype that meditation is hippie-dippy and too good to be true. But there’s plenty of solid evidence to satisfy all the naysayers out there. And even better, science suggests you may experience the brain benefits related to the practice even when you’re not actively meditating . Plus, it may even help you save money on your healthcare .

Need more convincing? Here’s 19 awesome, science-backed benefits of meditation!

1. Ditch depression.

Research suggests that 30 minutes of meditation improves depression symptoms (along with anxiety and pain) . In fact, the practice could possibly prevent depression and pain altogether—scientists discovered that people who meditate may have more control over how their brains process and pay attention to negative sensations (like pain) and negative thoughts (like depression triggers).

2. Stress less.

Nix those nail-biting moments already. When you meditate, you’re able to override a part of the brain responsible for the fear mechanism (which releases cortisol, the damaging stress hormone that’s responsible for a whole grab bag of health issues), says Korda. One study suggests that meditation can cut back on anxiety by almost 40 percent . And it doesn’t take a ton of time to reap these keep-calm-and-carry-on benefits. Just 25 minutes of meditation (done three times per week) may make tasks feel less stressful, according to recent research .

3. Relieve headaches.

Meditation may be an excellent line of defense against those horrible head-pounding episodes. Recent research finds that the practice leads to major relief of tension headaches (though it’s worth noting that the treatment program in this study involved both meditation and medication, like muscle relaxants) .

4. Be nicer.

Meditation may help you kill ‘em with kindness. In one study, the practice was linked with more empathy and laughter, being more social, and having a more team-oriented mentality (the meditation practitioners in the study used the word “we” more than “I”).

5. Boost memory.

If your desktop is wallpapered with sticky note reminders and you often find your mind jumping from thought to thought, you may want to turn to meditation. It’s been shown to not only improve memory but to help cut back on distracting thoughts .

6. Get more out of your workout.

Exercise, especially HIIT workouts in full-blown #beastmode, can do a number on your muscles and your central nervous system But meditation allows you to rest your body and mind very deeply, removing stress from your physiology and priming you for excellent sweat sessions, says Ben Turshen, a former lawyer who’s now a fitness professional and qualified independent teacher of Vedic Meditation in New York City. With meditation’s ability to reduce our stress levels, we’re able to perform our workouts that much better and enjoy them that much more, he says. And studies supportTurshen’s point. Plus, meditation might also help minimize sensitivity to pain (read on for deets on that!), meaning it might be just the boost you need to take on new fitness challenges.

7. Keep colds away.

No need to buy that jumbo 12-pack of tissue boxes. Research links meditation with having fewer respiratory illnesses, quicker recovery times, and needing fewer sick days from work .

8. Build better relationships.

Meditation will absolutely help you maintain healthy relationships, say Bernstein and Korda. Not only does it let you be more present in relationships, but it also helps you approach tricky situations with a calm mind and body. In fact, it may help you avoid big blowouts when dealing with a relationship issue (he/she said what?!). In one study, people who meditated and tried to problem-solve with their partner approached the issue with less hostility and a better mood .

9. Protect your heart.

Here’s a pretty great (and totally unexpected) way to boost your heart health—no burpees involved. Yep, we’re talking about meditation! In one study, patients with coronary heart disease who practiced meditation had a reduced risk of heart attack, stroke, and even death .

 

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Blog III My Observations About Energy Healing

Blog  III  My Observations About Energy Healing

 

One thing as a healer that I need to always be cognizant of is that if a person does not believe they can be healed or has an emotional block and does not believe they can be healed or are worthy of healing they will not be healed.  As humans we are active participants in this work and in our lives through our thoughts that we create all that is around us.  A negative thought or emotional block leads to barriers so that the energy to heal cannot enter that person’s energetic field.

 Luckily the reason I utilize the sacred tools handed  to me from the time of King Salomon ,  I know and have found that once a person receives a life activation they are more receptive to holding light and energetically open up their structure to receive healing.  How does that happen?  The more energy and light that is received from Source ( whatever your belief is ) the more your energy fields are able to hold and receive light. 

 Also having a healthy support system assists with our healing.  It can be from family, friends or a community of like minded individuals that assist you in becoming the best you can be and finding your truth and purpose in life. 

You may find you may be drawn to becoming a life activation practitioner and may also want to teach people and offer them a spiritual path of progression. Your goal may be to best parent for your children and be able to assist them in their spiritual and physical growth and progression in life.

 You may be drawn to leadership and may find that you are drawn to leading people on a spiritual path of progression.

Whatever you ask of the universe that is in alignment with the light will be shown and granted to you if it serves the light.

Whatever path you choose as long as it’s in alignment with the light your path will have some rocky parts but things progress and move out of the way quickly when you are in alignment with the light. 

Stay tuned for Blog 4.